5 Habits Retirees Should Develop

Retiree Enjoying Retirement

How many retirees do I have out there?

Did u know that one of the antonyms for retirement is advancement?

I do understand that retirement means the end of your day job and your “work” but is it the end of your advancement?
Absolutely not!

It’s almost like retirement is the beginning! It’s when you finally get to try all the things you had to pass up because of work. It’s when you finally must sit with yourself and get reacquainted! Think about that:

” Get reacquainted with yourself”

For those of us who suffer from anxiety and depression, this can be life changing. A lot of us struggle with our feelings when we first retire. There is some self-doubt when we realize that our worth may have been tied up in our jobs/careers. And now we have all this free time for self-loathing.

For me, I had to resituate my life. (Is that a word? Not sure) 😳. There are three things I’ve realized that I need to do every day to enjoy my retirement. No if, ands or buts about it!

1. Wake up and realize how blessed I am to make it to retirement. There are 70-year-old people out there still working and wishing they could retire! Not only that, but how many people do you know who didn’t even live long enough to retire? You are blessed. Don’t forget that!

2. Get outside. This one is hard for me. Sometimes I have to force myself not to isolate. But I know that if I just get out, I will feel so much better! The first step is the hardest!

3. Do something I enjoy. That’s blogging, digital photography, arts and crafts or playing Sims4 on pc.

What things do you enjoy doing in your spare time?
Retired or not, don’t let life get you down! Chronic illnesses and all; get up and enjoy your life!

Update: Crazy Dental Implant Journey

As some of you may know I’m in the process of getting dental implants. It’s been 6 months since my extractions (all remaining teeth), and it’s been tough. But let me just say, I know it could be so much harder! I’m on a dental implant support group on Facebook and some people have some real horror stories!

I opted to not have “temporaries” while I am healing, so I’ve spent the last 6 months toothless. It’s not pretty, but I wanted my gums free while healing. I have an appointment to check on the status and put in the abutments (or caps) on October 13. It’s been a long time coming!

When I first knew that I needed the implants, I started researching and boy was I surprised at how much they were going to cost! The highest quote I got was $47K and the lowest was $12K. At that point, I was really discouraged, BUT GOD.

I was able to get all the implant work done at the VA Hospital for free. In order to get free dental, you must have a service-connected disability at 100%. So, for me that means I am retired and getting disability from the military. I didn’t know that the VA would pay for implants, and I am so thankful they do. Otherwise, I would not be able to afford them! God is incredibly good!

Any other Implantees out there?

Why I Hate Anxiety


Suffering from anxiety is hard. Sometimes it makes me feel “stuck”. What I mean is I’ll be doing fine for a week or two…taking diligent care of myself and getting out and then there comes a day when I might have to change plans or something and stay in. It’s like, the longer I stay in the house, the harder it is for me to get out!

I begin to feel anxious when planning to go to the gym the next day. Where are those feelings coming from? Am I afraid to go out now? Do I not want to be around people? What is it? I’ve had doctors’ appointments this week, but it’s been a week since I’ve gone to the gym…I was doing fine before, but now it’s like I have to coax myself into going back. Once I get there though, I’m fine. And if I keep going, I’m fine, but if I have to skip for any reason, I feel lost and have to start all over again finding the confidence to get out.

People who don’t struggle daily with anxiety have no idea what a day in our lives is like. They can’t even imagine. I hate the way anxiety always has me second guessing myself. It makes me afraid of the normal things in life. But I won’t stop fighting. I can’t.

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What I Realize About Retirement


Boredom is a real thing, especially in retirement. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE being retired, but there are days that I really don’t want to do anything but lay down or watch television. I tend to feel guilty about those days, but on the other days I really do try to be productive.

What I need to realize though is that it’s ok to do nothing for a day. Being retired IS my job now. I’m not “less than” because I don’t work outside of the home. I have a husband and dog that I take care of now! LOL

Cedric & Moki

My son Ramel has his own place and job, so the Mommy part of my life is quite different now. I’m so thankful that Ramel is self-sufficient and happy. When he was small, our life was nothing like it is now. We’ve been without a home, car and so many other things, but God has truly blessed us.

My retirement is one of those blessings! I was burnt out at work and my health (especially mental) was on a downward spiral. God has granted me the time to concentrate on myself and I refuse to feel guilty about resting when it’s necessary!

Depression and Anxiety:You Just Don’t Get it, Do You?!

You know, it’s really hard to explain depression and anxiety to people. You’re worried about everything and nothing at the same time! Other people don’t really understand how hard a thing can be for you when it’s so easy for them. It’s hard for them to understand how your mind is always going 100mph!

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I thank God for the support that I have in my husband and family. I pray that anyone reading this has a good support system in place for when things get tough.

What are some things that your support system does for you when things get hard?

Time to Remove the Cloak


After talking to my therapist last week, I have been trying to realize the negative thoughts that I have WHEN I have them so that I can practice “letting them go”. I realize that once a thought gets into my head, I kind of run with it and when it’s a negative one, it can influence your entire day.

There was a time in my life when I didn’t know that you could control your thoughts. I believed you had to think whatever fell into your head.

Not so.

When you’re forced to deal with the public all day, it can be extremely hard to stay on point. The first few days I tried letting go of the negative as it came, it worked wonderfully. But by day 3, I was struggling. I have to literally take it minute by minute.

My depression has me feeling like I am wearing a heavy cloak on my shoulders. I’m tired of lugging it around. I’ve got to let it go.

Lord please help me.